Monday, June 6, 2011

:: The Next Level ::

Hello Kind People of the Earth!!

Something has been bugging me this past few days.. Its not a big thing but when you're alone, idly doing nothing most of the time, your mind tend to wander and inevitably satan will play its part. 

That said, I am very lucky to have wise friends, whom i can go to for advice or just for inspiration. So this morning, I came to work with a disturbed mind. Didnt know what to do, I talked to the wise man.. he sympathize and empathize with me. I felt relieved. Then he mentioned something that made me think hard about things that I've already learned and known. Its just that sometimes, when you dont practice what you know, you tend to forget.. you are after all only human.. 

When I was telling him about my challenge, he interjected and told me that I need to get through this in order for me to get to the next level. OMG!! Its been quite a few years since I heard anyone other than myself, talking about the 'level'. I always say things like, we vibrate at the same level, or we need to shed some burden (including negative friends) for us to rise to the next level, or things like that but I doubt a lot of people understand me. I preach this to my husband all the time.. only because I want us to evolve and grow together to the next and better level.

That conversation meant a lot. i feel much better. I now realize that I just need to stay calm, especially during this pregnancy period because, my wise friend said, satan loves to interfere with a pregnant woman's mind and evoke fear and doubt because that is the time when women are usually weak and full with emotional hormones. 

And now, I am psyched and motivated! Sticks and stones are never gonna shake me! No money to buy my Lumix? So what? I still have my Nikon.. Cant go to Sipadan? So what? there's always next year.. Friends dont want to be friends? So what? I have my friends who still vibrate at my level and we grow together towards the next level.. No money? so what? I still have my health and loved ones..

This is what i tell my hubby all the time.. 
"Associate yourself with successful people, and their success will eventually rub off on you.. Associate yourself with problematic people and you will eventually get some of their problem.. Its inevitable!!" in short, "Birds of the same feather flock together".. Drug addicts will be friends with drug addicts (because they vibrate and stay at the same level).. Businessmen will be friends with businessmen (again, because they are in the same level).. rich people will have rich friends (because of the same reason).

So dear friends, things that dont kill you will only make you stronger.. Be aware of what you put into your head because your subconscious mind is so powerful, it will attract whatever you are thinking.. in simple terms, whatever u say or think about, is your doa.. if you think and say it often enough, Allah will grant it for you. So bersangka baik dan berkata baiklah sentiasa.. 

A book I would like to highly recommend is Power of your subconcious mind by Joseph Murphy. A must read!



So there you go!.. Take care fellow friends of the same level.. Love you!

Thursday, June 2, 2011

:: 31st May 2011 ::

Its that day again.. My 32nd birthday.. woot woot!!!

Long ago, i would be wishing for a surprise karaoke celebration attended by loads of friends with loads of presents.. Long ago, i would wish for a huge bouquet of flowers to be delivered to my office by my other half, followed by a grand dinner and an expensive present when I get home.. Long ago I was naive. Long ago I was immature. 

This year, he asked me what I want for my birthday and in a heartbeat, I replied 'nothing', coz i already have everything that I could ever wish for. And the amazing thing is, i meant it. i really did. 

I am content with my life and am truly thankful for it. 


I have a beautiful, loving and caring family.. My parents and brothers, they were and still are my greatest fan and supporter.. And now i have my in-laws who love me, and care for me and treat me with respect and love.. 


















I have a wonderful husband. With whom I feel safe and loved. A husband who knows his responsibilities and works hard to provide for his family.. A husband who knows how to make me laugh my head off.. (a friend from MMU once asked me (and i think it was recorded) "apai, describe your dream guy" I said, "bald, tall & funny! Most importantly, FUNNY!"). That affirmation became a reality when I married my husband. I guess its true when they say, speak only of good things as what you say is your 'doa' and will eventually become your reality.






I have a beautiful baby growing inside of me.. A gift from Allah that I am truly thankful for. Every kick brings a smile to my face.. Knowing that he will be here in Ramadhan makes it much more meaningful. InsyaAllah its a boy, and going to be born in August. We are going to name him after my late brother, Faizal (who was born on 16 August 1980). I'm praying for his health and I'm praying for Allah's guidance for me in becoming a great mom.. 














I have a beautiful shelter, near my office and hubby's shop, a safe home, not too big and not too small, just nice for us.. 










I have a stable job, where I get to practice what I believe in.. Where I can fight for the environment and get paid for it.. Where I can go diving and be considered as working.. 









I have loving friends. Friends from my primary school in Johor, from secondary school in SBPS, Sabah & SIGS, JB.. Friends from MMU, friends from Flare, Air Asia, Emirates, CIMB, Royal Selangor and Edaran. Friends whom I met along the way.. Horse riding friends, Diving Friends.. Friends who support and stick with me when I hit rock bottom.. Friends who celebrate and laugh with me when I'm at the top of my world.. Most importantly, friends who are honest and love me for who I am.. As friends, we grew together and we embrace each other's change and advancement.. These are the friends who will be with me till the day I draw my last breath.. To those 'friends' whom I've lost along the way, thank you for making my life meaningful when you were in it.. Good luck in your life and should our paths crossed again, I hope we will be vibrating at the same level.




So Alhamdulillah! I am counting my blessing! May this year bring much happiness and wisdom from the Almighty. 



When one man, for whatever reason, has the opportunity to lead an extraordinary life, he has no right to keep it to himself.




~ Jacques Yves Cousteau

Monday, May 30, 2011

:: Too Phat - Alhamdulillah ::



Dian Sastro: 
disaat waktu berhenti...kosong
dimensi membutakan mata,memekakkan telinga
lalu diri menjadi hampa
saat paradigma dunia tak lagi digunakan untuk menerka*
sadarku akan hadirmu,mematahkan sendi2 yang biasanya tegak berdiri

Yassin:
ult li albi bissaraha (I'm opening up my heart with honesty)
hayya nab'idil karaha (Let's avoid the hated and hatred)
syakkireena a' kulli ni'ma (Let's remain thankful with what we have)
ba' ideena anil fattana (Let's avoid all lies and sins)

Malique:
merenungi luar jendela,mengagumi kebesaran yang Maha Esa
ku menilai kehidupan dari sudut berbeza
tak memadai hanya kecapi rasa selesa
maukan harta yang mampu beli 1 semesta
berpesta ke pagi botol bergelimpangan
kekasih muda bukan takat berpegang tangan
harta dan jamuan nafsu tidak berkekalan
bila menjelang tua bukan itu jadi bekalan
dan jangan puisi ini disalah tafsir pula
bukan berkhutbah cuma betuli diri jua
ingin hidup sempurna aset nilai berjuta,
saling tukar wanita,senyum dan mati tua
bakat dikurnia jangan disalah guna
jangan kufur nikmat yang diberi percuma
guna kelebihan untuk hikmah bersama
jagalah nama hidup penuh pementasan dan drama
ada berisi ada yang kurus,ada melencong ada yang lurus bukan semuanya tulus
ada sempuna ada kurang upaya ada yang jadi buta hanya bila sudah kaya
sebesar rumah bermula dengan sekecil bata,boleh hilang dalam sekelip mata
ucaplah alhamdulillah bukannya sukar, kerna semua nak kaya atau besar
tetap Allahuakbar!!!

Joe Flizzow: 
jadikanlah ku tentera Fisabilillah yang tertera di kalimah harap memanduilah
entah apabila persimpangan tiba,hidup penuh rintangan harus kuhadapinya
harapku tidak terlupa diri bila gembira,dan cuma mula mencari kau disaat hiba
ku cuma manusia penuh dengan kesilapan tapi bisa membezakan cahaya dan kegelapan
tabah bila dihalangan duri onak dan cobaan
teguh bila dicobakan keruh kuasa dan perempuan
sentiasa legar diminda,dikejar dan dipinta dari zaman bermula hingga ke akhirnya
ku mengerti siapa ku tanpamu disisi dan apa guna posesi juga posisi
sementara ini cuma hanya puisi,nukilan tulisan dan bisikan isi hati
mencari keterangan,menjiwai peranan menepati pesanan janji juga saranan
alhamdulillah atas kurniaan rezeki,moga tidak terleka dalam perjalanan ini

Ahli Fiqir: 
aku yang memandang di dalam lubuk hati,mencari-cari zat rahsia yang katanya tersembunyi
aku yang melihat alam meliputi wujud menyertai lalu ku pindahkan alam ke dalam mata hati
aku hakiki,aku mengerti segala yang terjadi di langit dan di bumi
gunanya tiada fantasi, pelik dan benar,qada' dan qadar kau berilah ku kekuatan
agar dapat ku hindarkan segala kesesatan
usah kau biar nafsuku terliur dari pandangan majazi ini,
aku yang hodoh lagi hina amat benar merindui
moga cahaya lailatul tak membutakan mataku,semoga segala puji tak ku meninggi diri
moga segala janji dapat juga ku penuhi,moga dapatku hadapi tikaman dari belakang
lidah setajam pisau, ku tidak akan risau dengan cabaran sepanjang perjalanan
ku pasrah ku akur 7,8,6 Alhamdulillah Syukur...

Dian Sastro: 
sujudku pun takkan memuaskan inginku
'tuk hanturkan* sembah sedalam kalbu
adapun kusembahkan syukur padamu ya Allah
untuk nama,harta dan keluarga yang mencinta
dan perjalanan yang sejauh ini tertempa
alhamdulillah pilihan dan kesempatan
yang membuat hamba mengerti lebih baik makna diri
semua lebih berarti akan mudah dihayati
Alhamdulillah,Alhamdulillah,Alhamdulillah.... 


p/s: terasa kecil diri apabila mengenang kuasaNya.. Terasa remeh temeh masalah harian yang melanda bila menyedari semua yg dinikmati adalah pinjaman.. terasa lega hati apabila mengharapkan kasih sayang yang maha esa, dan bukan umat manusia yang serba kekurangan..


biarlah manusia terus membenci.. kerana sesungguhnya ALLAH MAHA MENGETAHUI. Senyum.. Tak perlu kata apa apa..

Friday, May 6, 2011

:: Way To Go Yao Ming!! ::


Both thumbs up for Yao Ming! This is a huge step especially for Chinese community since they are the major consumer of sharks fin soup.. Maybe there's hope for sharks after all..

For the rest of the world, please stop supporting shark finning.. stop the killing of approximately 150 million sharks per year.. my children and your children deserve to learn and enjoy this most misunderstood underwater creature, that is SHARK!!

Monday, April 18, 2011

:: 10 Wonderful Tips for Eco-Living ::

(Taken from here)


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photo by Dan4th
by Liana Hamidon
These days, the word “recession” screams through every information source imaginable. Though the economy is set to decline for perhaps this and next year, many are looking for ways to save by cutting back on life’s little “un-necessities”. We need look no farther than our homes.
One of the best ways to lead a more sustainable lifestyle – both monetarily and for Mother Earth – is to Go Green. And there’s no better time than to start than now. Here are some tips on how:
1. Use Public Transportation
Quite a few Singapore households own cars but if you consider peak hour traffic, congested and expensive parking spots, COEs, high price tag of car-buying, multiple ERP charges, annual maintenance, road tax, traffic fines and rising petrol costs, then owning a car feels less like a luxury and more like a burden. The alternative is easy. Walk and use transportation whether it be buses, trains, other forms of public transportation. After all, God gave us legs, not a set of tires. However, if driving is still imperative, we would suggest organizing a carpool system with colleagues or parents to minimize the impact on the environment.
2. Buy Used
There are numerous parenting forums, message bulletins and websites that showcase excellent ways to trade or buy goods at significantly lower prices. Buying second-hand items can reduce our carbon footprint as there is no supply chain. Collectively, these small contributions can make a huge difference.
Similarly, have you ever been awakened by the yells and honking of ‘karung guni’ man? This wonderful scavenger is on a mission to collect furnishings, papers, and other unwanted goods which would have been otherwise, left on the street or in some other dumping ground. If you would rather try to make a little money from your unwanted goods, a garage sale is the answer. It’s a fun and easy way to get the whole neighbourhood involved while getting rid of unwanted clutter. Just make sure that you don’t end up exchanging clutter.
3. Go Back To Basics
Diapers prices are literally at skyrocketing. It makes you wonder how a simple piece of disposable plastic can fetch such prices? During our mom and grandmother’s time, the cloth-diaper was the mainstay and eco-friendly as they were simply washed after usage. Why not return to cloth diapers or even wet wipes, as my mom loves to do? While we’re at it, let’s replace paper towels with dish towels. All of these “old-fashioned” methods have helped families get during lean times in the past. During these times when our lifestyle is becoming increasingly disposable, we should look to the past for eco-friendly solutions.
4. Squeeze Till The Last Drop
Parents can and should play an important role in teaching our children the value of conservation. Common household items like toothpaste, shower soap and shampoo can be used sparingly. After all, a small squirt goes a long way. Both shower soap and shampoo can be diluted to last longer. Such products contain sodium laureth sulphate, a harsh foaming agent; thus a little dilution won’t affect its efficacy. Even though kids love bubble baths, baths use up a lot of water! Save such luxuries for special occasions. Educate our children and they will grow up to respect the environment.
5. Use Homemade Cleaners
Baking soda and vinegar are effective cleansing tools we can put to good use at home. You can also try lemon juice to get rid of tough grease marks. If you have a garden, use coffee or tea grounds as a fertiliser. The smell is far more pleasant than normal fertiliser and can help reduce your overall trash output.
6. Go Veggie
As inflation rises so does the cost of groceries, especially meat. The livestock industry and meat processing has proven to be a major contributor to environmental waste. Instead of a steady meat diet, why not try bean curd, beans and nuts as protein alternatives? Though it may prove difficult at first, we can teach our children at an early age the importance of a well-balanced diet.
7. No Bulk Portions
For larger families, there is a tendency to cook in bulk and often times we do so excessively. In order to conserve food, eat less and save leftovers for subsequent meals. Furthermore, home-cooked meals have significantly less salt, oil and saturated fat.
8. Visit Local Attractions
Some of the best travel destinations are in our backyard. Teach our children the pleasures of local attractions. In Singapore, the zoo and Night Safari, Bird Park, Botanic Gardens, museums, beaches and parks are popular destinations. Explore new haunts like the Hort Park and Marina Barrage for family picnics. Jet-setting to a faraway destination may be fun and luxurious, but it is the quality time spent with family that creates memorable experiences and leaves a minimal carbon footprint.
9. Stop Impulse Buying
In many households, Spring Cleaning is an annual ritual to rid ourselves of excess, unwanted clutter. It’s human nature to impulsively buy and collect items in the moment. While we would dream of depriving others of that primal satisfaction, we would encourage you to, perhaps, stop and think before buying. Do you really need that 7-minute ab-flexer or triangle sandwich press? Live simply. For every time you get the urge to buy something senseless, put that money into a jar. Spend it on something you really need at the end of the year. We promise you’ll be the happier for it.
10. Tell us what you would recommend for our last tip. (contributed by Ayesha Kohli)
Get creative with toys. Instead of buying yet another toy made of cheap plastic or expensive wood, look around at what is at home. Old cardboard boxes, paint, twine, coloured paper, empty jam bottles, bottle caps of all sizes. Paint, wrap, embellish and create a whole army of toy characters. Keeps the kids busy and creative and makes recycling a whole lot of fun!
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See how easy it is to do our bit in saving the earth? Of course there are many other ways such as;
1- gradually change your light bulbs to energy saving bulbs
2- use less detergent & water (choose 'economy' when selecting ur washing cycle)
3- iron weekly, not daily
4- recycle! recycle! recycle! papers, jam jars, bottles etc..
5- line dry your laundry, not tumble dry
6-spread the word.. be persistent and keep on talking about environmental issues.. eventually your spirit will rub-off to someone..
the list goes on.. bottom line is, there is no way you can do everything and single-handedly save the earth.. so pick a few tips that you think are easy enough to practice and practice them diligently & proudly. Ignore what people say. Keep in mind, you are doing this for your future generations.. your kids, your grandchild.. and most of all, remember "hablimminAllah wa hablimminannas"
buy used: visit bundle shops (like my hubby's shop, the BUNDLE KING and look out for flea markets. It may take more energy but it is definitely more fun!
go back to basics: use cloth diapers & breast feed your child. People used to think that cloth diapers & breast feeding are for poor families. I say screw them! Its very good for the planet and very very good for your child. Why use cow's milk when god has created human milk especially for the new borns? I am also a proud user of cotton pads. No 'whisper' or any branded pads for me.. I choose the cheapest in the market. No, not because I'm a cheapskate but because cheap pads are made of cotton only and the more expensive ones are made with cotton and gels (for better absorption). Way back in the 80s I remember my mother telling me that the gel in pads releases a chemical vapour when wet. And the vapour might be absorbed into our body and might cause ovarian cancer. Wallahualam..
squeeze till the last drop: oh i do! and I recycle the bottles too!
use homemade cleaners: very safe for human, especially children. imagine using chemicals to clean the microwave.. who's to say that the residue of the chemical detergents wont react with heat & might release some sort of harmful gas which then will be absorbed into your food (ok, i may sound paranoid but then again, better be safe than sorry). Instead, squeeze a lemon into a bowl of tap water, throw in the squeezed lemon into the bowl and run the microwave for approximately 10 minutes. then wipe clean the inside. you'll find that the stains are a lot easier to remove and it smell wonderful too!! the rest of the kitchen, use vinegar! 
visit local attractions: as a diver, and a wife to a passionate diver, local is the way to go.. do you know that malaysia in within the 'coral triangle'? which means we have among the most beautiful underwater realm in the world. Our corals and underwater ethereal creatures are ranked among those of Australia's Great Barrier reef, the Blue Hole of Belize and the coral reef of Mauritius and the Maldives. 

stop impulse buying: trust me, I've been there & done that! I used to have 3 credit cards with RM12,000 credit limit on each card. I was earning a lot but unfortunately i was spending a lot too.. i was sucked in the idea of 20th century young exec. Swiping my card wherever i go.. before long, i was buried in debt. with 11 - 12% interest PER MONTH, who wouldnt? (interest for personal loan is around 10 to 13% PER YEAR! ). with the compounding effect, i hit rock bottom. i had no choice but to seek professional help. I went to AKPK and they helped me make a deal with the banks. They managed to get me a pretty good deal. i still have to settle my debt but they converted it to a personal loan. Which means my compounding interest plummeted tremendously. I must say, going to akpk was one of the smartest action i've ever made. I now spend on cash only. i dont spend the money that i dont own. me and hubby both.. if we want to but something expensive, we'll start a piggy bank.. before long, we'll be able to buy things that we want.. its amazing how fast you can accumulate money when u want something bad enough.. so to me, when you dont own credit cards, you think about what you want to buy and therefore u most likely wont be an impulse buyer.

So boys and girls, start saving the environment now! If you cant do anything else, start using recycle paper in your office.. or at least print on both sides of the paper.. Yeah i know it can be a hassle sometimes and why save when its not even your paper? look at it this way, if the environment and the earth is not enough of a motivation for you, do it for yourself and your year-end bonus.. you are actually doing your bit to save some money for your company.. when your company saves money, u are more likely to get bonus at the end of the year.. 

Take care peeps!!

Friday, April 15, 2011

:: Squeeze My Hand and I'll Tell You That I Love You ::



This short story is taken from the book 'Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul'. I read this particular story when I was having my breakfast alone in a crowded mamak near my office. When I finished, I bawled my eyes out and I think I almost gave the mamak a heart attack.. Hahaha.. now that I think about it, it was rather embarrassing and I'm pretty sure I wont be visiting that mamak for at least a week.

Anyway, I suddenly had the urge to share this with everyone. So enjoy peep..

p/s: Love you mother! 


Remember when you were a child and you fell and hurt yourself? Do you remember what your mother did to ease the pain? My mother, Grace Rose, would pick me up, carry me to her bed, sit me down and kiss my "owwie". Then she'd sit on the bed beside me, take my hand in hers and say, "When it hurts, squeeze my hand and I'll tell you that I love you". Over and over I'd squeeze her hand, and each time, without fail, I heard the words, "Mary, i love you."

Sometimes, I'd find myself pretending I'd been hurt just to have that ritual with her. As I grew up, the ritual changed, but she always found a way to ease the pain and increase the joy I felt in any area of my life. On difficult days during high school, she'd offer her favorite Hershey chocolate almond bar when I returned home. During my 20s, Mom often called to suggest a spontaneous picnic lunch at Estabrook Park just to celebrate a warm , sunny day in Wisconsin. A handwritten thank-you note arrived in the mail after every single visit she and my father made to my home, reminding me of how special I was to her.

But the most memorable ritual remained her holding my hand when I was a child and saying " When it hurts, squeeze my hand and I'll tell you that I love you".

One morning, when I was in my late 30s, following a visit by my parents the night before, my father phoned me at work. He was always commanding and clear in his directions, but I heard confusion and panic in his voice. "Mary, something's wrong with your mother and I dont know what to do. Please come over as quickly as you can".

The 10-minute drive to my parents' home filled me with dread, wondering what was happening to my mother. When I arrived, I found Dad pacing in the kitchen and Mom lying on her bed. Her eyes were closed and her hands rested on her stomach. I called to her, trying to keep my voice as calm as possible. "Mom, I'm here".

"Mary?"
"Yes, Mom".
"Mary, is that you?"
"Yes, Mom, it's me".

I wasn't prepared for the next question, and when I heard it, I froze, not knowing what to say.

"Mary, am I going to die?"

Tears welled up inside me and I looked at my loving mother lying there so helpless.

My thoughts raced, until this question crossed my mind: What would Mom say?

I paused for a moment taht seemed like a million years, waiting for the words to come. "Mom, I dont know if you're going to die, but if you need to, it's okay. I love you".

She cried out, "Mary, I hurt so much".

Again, I wondered what to say. I sat down beside her on the bed, picked up her hand and heard myself say, "Mom, when it hurts, squeeze my hand and I'll tell you that I love you".

She squeeze my hand.

"Mom, I Love you".

Many hand squeezes and "I love you's" passed between my mother and me during the next two years, until she passed away from ovarian cancer. We never know when our moment o truth will come, but I do know now that when they do, whomever I'm with, I will offer my mother's sweet ritual  of love every time. 
"When it hurts, squeeze my hand and I'll tell you that I love you".

Mary Marcdante

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

:: Arrgghhh!! ::

Bila nak rasa baby tendang tendang ni??? arrgghhhhh!!!


17 week pregnant...

How your baby's growing:

Your baby's skeleton is changing from soft cartilage to bone, and the umbilical cord — her lifeline to the placenta — is growing stronger and thicker. Your baby weighs 5 ounces now (about as much as a turnip), and she's around 5 inches long from head to bottom. She can move her joints, and her sweat glands are starting to develop.




Wednesday, March 9, 2011

:: Meeting Meeting Meeting ::

Hey all,

I remembered telling my good friend, Encik Penn a few years back, that I was looking forward to working in a proper office because I wanted to experience being in a meeting. A proper meeting.. The one with agenda, a chairman, a minute taker.. well, u know.. the whole nine yards..

He laughed at me.. He, who is also a country manager of an international company lives his life attending to meetings almost everyday, said that meetings are boring! It usually is an outlet for people to promote themselves and fish for acknowledgements, if not compliments.

The truth is, I wanted to experience meeting at that time was because it was something very foreign to me.. I never had the opportunity to attend a proper meeting with coffee and tea. (We were never called for a meeting when I was a stewardess).

Now that I'm an officially working in an office, I despise meetings! Especially those meetings that are not well organised. Those meeting without an agenda or where everyone wants to be the chairman, where everybody would talk at the same time and nobody would listen..

I had that kind of meeting just now.. The meeting started at 10 am and ended at 2++pm and we were only given coffee and tea.. I mentioned I was hungry a few times to the attendees but sadly there were no response. Until one of the kind lady in the meeting said I should just go if I cant take it.. (Thank God she understands!) 

Dont get me wrong.. I'm not trying to be a diva or anything like that.. I am just pregnant.. It maybe different for other pregnant ladies, but lately when I'm hungry, I'm really really hungry.. like extremely hungry with heart burn and headache.. 

Ideally, lunch should be served or at least kuih kuih.. coffee and tea just wouldnt be enough..

I had no choice but to leave the meeting to eat. I was already shaking at that time.. and of course furious!

Anyway, this just goes to show that the grass is always greener on the other side.. You always want something that you dont have.. What you have at the moment always seem insufficient.. Things that seems enjoyable and beautiful from afar may not be as good as you think..

So my friend, be careful what you ask for! 

I shouldnt have asked for to attend a lot of meetings!

Darn!