tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-79727570360595855922024-03-14T16:04:57.491+08:00Looking On The Bright SideWife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.comBlogger140125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-22158633853798190812012-05-31T15:42:00.000+08:002012-05-31T15:44:10.288+08:00:: My Birthday!! :: A Special Gift From A Friend ::<div style="text-align: justify;">
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The meeting was arranged by Allah, I'm sure. This is why.</div>
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My dear friend lives in Kuantan. The last time I met him was almost 2 years ago. To be exact, it was on my sanding day, 17 July 2010. Today, out of the blue, his name popped up in my head as I was getting out of my car in front of my office. I wanted to call but I feared being intrusive as it was too early. So i texted him. I said, "H**, u in KL?". I got an immediate reply, "Yes babe, I'm in a meeting in Subang. Lets meet up anywhere near MRR2 before I go back to Kuantan". I was more shocked than happy. I've endlessly tried to meet up with him for almost a year and never got the chance. And yesterday seemed too easy.</div>
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So we met during lunch. Chatted, laughed, cried. We shared loads of stories. Stories that inspire me. Before we parted ways, he gave me something as my birthday present. Told me to make an effort to live by it.</div>
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So today, as the Birthday girl, I'm sharing this with all of you. Lets make an effort to live by these rules. Should you need any explanation, please do ask me.</div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>1. I refrain from opposing or harming anyone. I allow others to have their own experiences. I see life in all things and honour it as it were my own. </b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>2. I follow my inner compass and discard any beliefs that are no longer serving me. I go to the source.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>-I SEEK TRUTH-</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>3. I begin the creative process. I give direction to my life.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>-I SET MY COURSE-</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>4. I let go so there is room for something better to come in. I intend that I'm guided, guarded, protected and lined up with the HIGHEST GOOD at all times. I trust and remain open to recieve from both expected and unexpected sources.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>5. I see good, say good & do good. I accept the gifts from all of my experiences. I am living in grace and gratitude.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>-I STAY POSITIVE-</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>6. After intending and surrendering, I take action by following the opportunities that are presented to me. I'm in the flow where GREAT MYSTERY & MIRACLES abide, fulfilling my desires and doing what I came here to do.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>7. I practice love in action. I always have enough to spare & enough to share. I am available to help those who need it.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>8. I am a magnificent being, awakening to my highest potential. I express my self with joy, smilling & laughing often.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>9. I create my ideal world by envisioning it & telling others about it.</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><b>10. I see humanity as one. I enjoy gathering with light hearted people regularly. When we came together, we set our stage for GREAT ONENESS to reveal itself.</b></span></div>
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Take care peeps! Love You!!</div>
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Today, I'm gonna tell you about a few of my favorite things. Things that I love since I was little.</div>
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Well, everybody knows I love diving, I love horses and I love playing with my little munchkin, that just goes without saying.</div>
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What I'm going to tell you today is something most of you dont know. Things that can make me change from a frown to a smile in a heartbeat.</div>
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<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">1)</span></b> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Lilies</span> - I absolutely adore lilies. Any kind of lilies. <a href="http://photos.igougo.com/pictures-photos-p320299-White_Lilies_in_Bloom.html" target="_blank">White lilies</a>, <a href="http://fressko.com/articles/en/news/Sondra_Gotlieb-The_secret_life_of_plants-and-of_those-who-tend_to-them.html" target="_blank">casablanca lilies</a>, <a href="http://www.fjflowers.com.au/products/256/cerise-and-light-pink-lilies-bridesmaid-bouquet" target="_blank">pink lilies</a>, <a href="http://www.pacificbouquets.com/guide_lily_asiatic.html" target="_blank">asiatic lilies</a>, <a href="http://www.zone10.com/water-lilies-water-garden.html" target="_blank">water lilies</a>, <a href="http://deborahjanebridal.wordpress.com/2011/01/27/orange/mango-calla-lilies/" target="_blank">calla lilies</a>. Especially CALLA LILIES!!! Oh my God! They are just gorgeous!</div>
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Back when I was still single, and was living alone, my daily routine would be somewhat like this..</div>
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5:30am: wake up, a cup of nescafe, ciggie (i used to smoke), solat, bath.</div>
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6:45am: drive to work (bangi to KL)</div>
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9:00pm: read or TV while doing my push ups, skipping and sit ups. bedtime.</div>
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The best smell to welcome you home after a hard days work, is the smell of sweet lilies. The best flower to give your lover, is lilies. The best decoration for your dining table is lilies. The best flower to represent your love is lilies. What can I say.. I'm a sucker for lilies...</div>
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If I could change one thing about my wedding, I would change my bouquet from roses to lilies!. If I could ask for a flower bouquet for my birthday, I would ask for lilies. :)</div>
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Enjoying a good book, with a cup of coffee, by the beach, in the morning, just after the rain, would be my perfect kind of morning.</div>
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Oh, I <a href="http://faizahj.blogspot.com/2011/04/10-wonderful-tips-for-eco-living.html" target="_blank">go green</a> too. I recycle, I save on things that I can save on, like water, electricity, paper, plastic, money (hehe). I use reusable shopping bags, reusable diapers, I make my own baby food so I save on the glass bottles, which the prepacked baby food comes in. I reuse bottles. So in my home, you can see a lot of lotion bottles with stickers on them saying things like "SHAMPOO" or "DISWASHING LIQUID" because I only buy refill packs from the supermarket.</div>
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I've yet to start recycle boxes at my mother's home. To me, its just sad to see the state of our earth nowadays. And I love my son too much to let him stay in this dying planet at the state it is now. I wish I could fly around saving the planet, just like captain planet. I cant. So I'm doing my part. It maybe small, but at least I'm doing something about it.</div>
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When I was in primary school, I always get number 1 in my class. When I get number 2, I slapped that boy who got number one. (hehe.. dont tell my mom!). My ambition at that time was to become a judge.</div>
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When I was working, I applied for Emirates Airlines simply because a lot of people say its very hard for malaysian to get the job. Evidently they were wrong! I declined offers from Malaysia Airlines and Singapore Airlines because I had to go with the highest paid airline in the world. And because of that, I had to work with Dome as a waitress for a couple of months while waiting for the offer from Emirates. Yes, I'm very determined like that.</div>
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Now, after a lot of years, after marriage and after being a mother, I've mellowed down (a lot!!). From being a high D, I'm now high C (<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DISC_assessment" target="_blank">check out NLP - DISC assessment</a>). From wanting to a powerful judge, I now dream of becoming a stay at home mom. A housewife. I love doing house chores, I love cleaning (I'm a bit of a germaphobic and OCD rolled into one) and I love cooking. I know nothing about traditional malay cooking but I love cooking western food. (I'm good at it too!). I love spending time in a clean sparkling bathroom, cooking in an extremely clean kitchen and i love seeing my husband and myself in the mirror wearing clean, ironed clothes. (I used to iron all my clean laundry, including the bedsheet and telekung.. When I was about 8 months pregnant, a hot iron fell on my lap when I was ironing sitting down and I had a second degree burn.. ouch! After birth, I iron my clothes on a day to day basis.. hehe.. no time la..)</div>
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I love finding presents when I least expects it. On a normal day, at a random place. LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!! It doesnt matter what the present is, when it is presented as a surprise, it just becomes more special by ten fold. Even if it is just a box of tora. </div>
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I love it when someone brings me to a place without telling me, with the intention to surprise me. A surprise dinner, or surprise picnic or anything like that. Even if it is just a picnic with a piece of blanket as a spread, jusco bought sushi and a couple of boxes soya bean drink at the KLCC park. Bliss!</div>
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Take Care</div>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-23384225002516789172012-05-07T13:00:00.000+08:002012-05-07T13:07:41.347+08:00:: My Birthday Month 2012 ::<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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Well, as most of you probably not aware of (because I am no longer your friend in FB and therefore no more reminders of my birthday) this month is the month of my birthday. 31st of May to be exact. And in conjunction, I will be writing about my life all this month. About things I love, things I hate, things I dream about, anything and everything about ME ME ME!!! Muahahahaha..<br />
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So stay tuned.. More self centered posts coming!Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-62720707632363383332012-04-27T11:34:00.003+08:002012-04-27T11:34:58.647+08:00:: Happy Together, Forever.. ::<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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So today, on this very blessed Friday, lets slow down, lets enjoy the small things, lets enjoy each other.. Enjoy that sip of coffee in the morning.. Enjoy that brief smirk of your son, Enjoy that refreshing splash of water when you perform your wudhu..</div>
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I guess this is why Allah emphasize on tomakninah.. so that we stop for a bit, and not rush thru everything.. that brief pause could do us good after all..</div>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-87035602886126929512012-04-26T14:56:00.003+08:002012-04-26T14:56:40.954+08:00:: Doa Untuk Bayi & Kanak-Kanak ::<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">Doa dan ayat ini boleh dibaca untuk anak-anak yang baru lahir atau kanak-kanak.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">DOA RASULULULLAH KEPADA IBNU ABBAS</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">"ALLAHUMMA FAQQIHU FIDDINI, WA ‘ALLIMHU AL-HIKMATA AT-TA’WILA QURANA"</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">Terjemahannya:<br />“Ya Allah alimkanlah dia hikmah dan takwil Al Quran”<br /><br /><b>SURAH AL HUD Ayat 56</b><br /><br />إِنِّى تَوَكَّلۡتُ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ رَبِّى وَرَبِّكُمۚ مَّا مِن دَآبَّةٍ إِلَّا هُوَ ءَاخِذُۢ بِنَاصِيَتِہَآۚ إِنَّ رَبِّى عَلَىٰ صِرَٲطٍ۬ مُّسۡتَقِيمٍ۬ (٥٦)<br /><br />Terjemahannya:<br />"Kerana sesungguhnya aku telah berserah diri kepada Allah, Tuhanku dan Tuhan kamu! Tiadalah sesuatupun dari makhluk-makhluk yang bergerak di muka bumi melainkan Allah jualah yang menguasainya. Sesungguhnya Tuhanku tetap di atas jalan yang lurus. (56)"</span></span>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-57230599902115480862012-04-23T13:34:00.003+08:002012-04-23T13:35:45.793+08:00:: 5 Tips Intimewa untuk Isteri - by Ustaz Kazim ::<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"></span><br />
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Tips untuk Isteri<a name='more'></a><br /><br />Di dalam Islam, seorang suami mempunyai tanggung jawab yang besar ke atas keluarganya. Suami adalah ketua keluarga. Suami merupakan tunggak kekuatan sesuatu keluarga itu. Seorang isteri wajib memberikan kasih saying dan ketaatan kepada suaminya agar kehidupan berkeluarga mendapat keberkatanNya.<br /><br />Berikut adalah tips untuk Isteri<br /><br />1. Berkongsi minat.<br />Tunjukkan anda berminat dengan hobinya atau sekurang-kurangnya mendengar apabila suami anda bercakap tentang sesuatu yang diminatinya. Kejutkan suami dengan membeli buku-buku atau barang-barang yang berkenaan dengan minatnya itu. Confirm suami akan lebih menyayangi anda!<br /><br />2. Tumpukan perhatian apabila suami bercakap.<br />Seorang isteri yang baik akan sentiasa mendengar apa yang cuba disampaikan oleh suami. Lihat ke dalam matanya dan tidak memintas ditengah percakapannya. Cara ini amat disukai suami kerana dia akan berasa lebih dihormati (sebagai ketua keluarga).<br /><br />3. Hantar ucapan istimewa.<br />Teknologi masakini memudahkan kita untuk berkomunikasi. Luahkan perasaan cinta atau penghargaan anda kepada suami tercinta melalui text message atau kad ucapan. Ucapan manja atau saying si isteri amat bermakna kepada suami. Cuba dan lihat keputusannya!<br /><br />4. Sentuhan Isteri amat bermakna.<br />Selain dari ibunya dan anak-anaknya, si isteri sahajalah yang berhak menyentuh suaminya. Pegang tangan suami tidak kira di mana. Jika malu atau tak biasa, gunakan masa ketika anda berdua seperti di dalam kereta atau panggung wayang. Tip ini akan membuatkan suami berasa lebih dihormati dan menunjukkan si isteri masih sayang dan masih memerlukan suami.<br /><br />5. Beri ruang untuk suami.<br />Tanggungjawab yang dipikul oleh suami amat besar dalam memastikan keluarganya mendapat yang terbaik. Berikan ruang untuk suami dalam menyempurnakan pekerjaannya yang menampung keluarga. Cuba elakkan dari memberikan suami muka yang masam ketika dia pulang dari tempat kerja.Jika boleh berilah senyuman kerana senyuman itu pengubat segala duka. Elakkan cemburu buta dan pastikan makan minumnya terjaga.</span>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-73125900063393903592012-04-16T16:55:00.000+08:002012-04-16T16:56:22.815+08:00:: Ziqri, the Centre Of Attention ::<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<b><u>Bila atok nak cium, dia tanak.. melentik2 tanak kena janggut and misai atuk.. son, atok did that to mommy when mommy was little, memang geli sesangat!! but know that he loves you..</u></b></div>
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<br />Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-54659594997611872782012-04-16T16:34:00.000+08:002012-04-16T16:42:02.452+08:00:: 5 Tip Istimewa untuk Suami - By Ustaz Kazim ::<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif; line-height: 18px;"><i>I love ustaz Kazim! Saya suka ustaz Kazim! hehe.. Anyway, I heard people are now speculating things behind my back.. due to my recent posts.. wahh concern juga orang2 diluar sana ya.. thanks peeps.. Its nice to know you care.. Keep on speculating.. If you were to ask me, I would say "NO COMMENT" ala celebrity.. hehe</i></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Bilakah kali terakhir anda mengucapkan cinta anda kepada isteri? Ucapan ini amat bermakna. Ia sbenarnya memberikan maksud yang luas. Dengan mengucapkan cinta, anda seperti memberikan harapan dan keyakinan kepada isteri dan menguatkan semangat untuknya dalam menghadapi dunia yang penuh dugaan ini.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">5. Bawa dia keluar.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Gunakan masa yang ada untuk membawa isteri anda keluar bersiar. Jika ada peluang, lakukan aktiviti bersama-sama seperti menaiki basikal, berjogging, melawat museum atau pameran atau sekadar jalan jalan cari makan.</span>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-55149299708735582652012-04-14T10:09:00.001+08:002012-04-14T10:09:42.572+08:00:: Rita Rudaini, bersabarlah ::Hello beautiful khalifah of the world..<br />
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I am not a gossip junkie. I dont read mangga or oh bulan or even the gossip column in newspaper. Gossipping is just not my cup of tea.. nothing against those who like it.. (bak kata my sifoo, separuh orang suka durian, separuh orang tak suka.. so hormat je la..)<br />
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But yesterday, when I saw the headline on a newspaper, i was intrigued. i wanted to know more. so read all the gossip blogs and sites about her divorce case. I was saddened. My heart felt heavy. I can only imagine her feelings. Being let go like that, left with 2 kids, without any support from the in-laws. (lets just ignore the fact that she got the devastating news on her birthday!).<br />
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I'm not interested to discuss and write about who's wrong and who's right. To me thats not important. I am more concern about her journey from here on.<br />
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If only I know her, I would tell her this...<br />
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Rita, Pray really really hard. berdoa dengan bersungguh2. Doa orang teraniaya adalah antara doa yg dimakbulkan. Tell your sorrows to Allah. Weep to Allah. Cry your heart out to Allah. No body in this world can help you more than Allah can. He knows whats best for you. mungkin ini sesuatu yang baik yang telah dirancang Allah, yang kita sendiri tak tahu kebaikannya. Do your semayang hajat, do your solat taubat n do your tahajud. Minta ditenangkan fikiran for you have to be as calm as a swan in fron of your 2 gorgeous boys. Dont bother explaining anything to anybody.. you dont have to. I know being a parent is a hard job and a big responsibility. Being a single parent is way harder so ask for His help. Amalkan selawat Fatimah setiap hari sebelum tidur (subhanallah 33x alhamdulillah 33x allahuakbar 34x) insyaAllah akan membantu.<br />
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Thats it. know that dugaan Allah datang untuk menguji kita. "memintalah kepada Allah denan jalan sabar dan menunaikan solat. sesungguhnya solat itu amat berat kecuali bagi orang yang khusyuk" albaqarah.</div>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-48189469130894031832012-04-13T16:06:00.002+08:002012-04-13T16:16:28.410+08:00:: Single Parenting ::<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #737373; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10px; line-height: 18px; text-transform: uppercase;">by: <a href="http://www.suhaibwebb.com/author/munira-lekovic-ezzeldine/" rel="author" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #154a7f; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10px; font-weight: 700; text-decoration: none;" title="Posts by Munira Lekovic Ezzeldine">MUNIRA LEKOVIC EZZELDINE</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #737373; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10px; line-height: 18px; text-transform: uppercase;"> </span><br />
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Parenting is a tough job, but single parenting is an even tougher challenge, as one parent tries to fulfill the roles of both a mother and a father to their child. Single parenting is highly demanding physically, emotionally and financially. There can be numerous reasons and circumstances for single parenting, such as divorce, a spouse working abroad, a child born out of wedlock, or even the illness or death of a parent. Sadly, the Muslim community often alienates and ostracizes single parents and is often selective regarding which single parent “deserves” compassion,</div>
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<a name='more'></a>based on the reasons they are single. A judgmental attitude does not help encourage single parents to be the best parents possible to their child(ren). Compassion and support from the community is necessary to help single parents on their challenging journey. This article seeks to offer constructive support to single parents as they seek to raise their children<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">, insha’Allah</em>.<br />
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Numerous examples exist in the Islamic tradition of single parents who successfully raised children to become strong individuals. These individuals then left a legacy for humanity which shines more brightly, specifically because of being raised by single parents. Hajar, the mother of Prophet Ismail (pbuh), Maryam, the mother of Prophet Isa (pbuh), and Amina, the mother of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), all raised their sons alone due to different circumstances. They all put their trust in Allah and worked hard to be the best parents they could be to their children. Also, the mothers of Imam al-Shafi’, Imam Ahmed and Imam Bukhari raised their sons alone, all of whom later became renowned figures that left a major impact on the world. The reality is that single Muslim parents do exist today. They need support as they strive to raise resilient Muslim children for the future.</div>
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Children raised by single parents thrive in homes where there is stability, safety, love, and consistency. A single parent that is committed to providing loving discipline will create an environment for the child to truly flourish. Raising secure and successful children requires single parents to confidently implement the following parenting skills.</div>
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<strong style="font-style: normal; font-weight: bold;">Discipline</strong></div>
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Sometimes single parents may feel guilty or overwhelmed by their parenting duties, so they resort to weak enforcement or bending of “rules” in order to make their child happy and reduce potential conflict. Some parents may compensate for the absence of the other parent by being permissive in their parenting style. Single parents must be careful to not allow children to dismiss rules set by the parent or to become their “friends.” Setting boundaries for children creates much needed structure in all households (single and dual) because children want to know that their parent has rules and has set limits and expectations. Boundaries also create a sense of safety for a child because the roles of the parent and child have been clearly established. Parental limits teach the child to respect the parent and solidify their role in the family<strong style="font-style: normal; font-weight: bold;">.</strong></div>
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Children dealing with a divorce or a death will crave stability as they adjust to their new life with one parent. Establishing routines, schedules and traditions are important for children when adjusting to a new family dynamic. A child wants to know what to expect and look forward to on a daily basis. Consistency in everyday routines gives the child(ren) a feeling of security and stability. Focusing on creating morning routines, weekly schedules and dinners together are small ways that single parents can create constancy for their child. Availability by the parent in terms of attention and physical presence will assure the child(ren) a sense of belonging. Also, creating new traditions and memories during holidays and special occasions reaffirms the new family identity.</div>
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Single parents and their children may struggle with various feelings and emotions surrounding their new family structure. The parent and child may struggle with changes and upheavals in their life, and may share with one another the challenges of the new family structure. Parents need to listen and truly hear their child(ren) when they share their thoughts and feelings. Parents must not make disparaging comments about the other parent as a means to gain the sympathy of the child(ren). Despite common stress, parents must not turn to their child for emotional support nor burden them with the personal struggles they encounter. Parents must turn to their social circles and confide in other adults and friends only. Confiding worries or complaining to a child is inappropriate, regardless of the level of maturity of the child. It is extremely detrimental to children to absorb the thoughts and feelings of their parents. Children need to remain children and should not become a “friend” or “therapist” to the parent. Parents who feel stressed, depressed, anxious or lonely, should seek professional guidance or support from other adults as they adjust to single parenthood.</div>
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Single parents will need help and support with the endless tasks and responsibilities of raising the child(ren) . This requires being comfortable asking for help from family and friends. Seeking support with childcare, such as carpooling, help in case of emergencies, or schedule conflicts at work, will benefit single parents when they are stretched in multiple directions. Creating a teamwork environment at home where the child(ren) have chores and responsibilities is also important so that the child(ren) understand their role in the family and feel like capable contributors.</div>
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Single parents work hard to care and provide for their children; many times, they neglect themselves or may feel guilty taking time away from their children. However, it is necessary for parents to take care of themselves physically, emotionally and spiritually. Giving without replenishing will limit a parent’s ability to be their best. Scheduling time for hobbies and enjoyable activities like reading, watching a movie, having coffee with a friend, etc. are ways parents can find personal fulfillment. Creating time to exercise, eat properly and focusing on prayer and reconnection to Allah will help with managing stress and living a more balanced life. Developing a social network of close friends or other single parents will also empower parents so they do not feel alone in their journey. Strong support systems can enable single parents to share and feel accepted by other adults who understand their context. Ultimately the child(ren)’s emotional well-being hinges on the parent’s healthy and balanced lifestyle.</div>
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Single Muslim parents who have a positive attitude and express resiliency will model strong character to their children. Single parents must be kind to themselves and focus on doing their best. They will not be “perfect” nor will they be able to fill the shoes of the second parent. Being the best parent is being present and connected with your child(ren) in a manner that is loving and encouraging every day. These are the most important things you can do as a parent, single or otherwise.</div>
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My wife and I are newly married, and I feel she is always angry with me. During the planning of the wedding, I thought her moodiness was due to the stress of the wedding. However, her frustration has continued into our marriage. The smallest of things that I say or do, which in my mind appear to be innocent enough, make her angry to the point that she refuses to speak to me. </div>
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<a name='more'></a>For example, if she calls me while I’m at work and I don’t respond immediately, she gets angry. If we don’t spend enough time together, she gets angry. If I don’t wash the dishes the right way, she gets angry. I try to explain to her that I am just busy and not trying to offend her or upset her. She even refuses to acknowledge that I don’t get angry with her when she does the same things to me. I have tried to talk to family and friends for help, and everyone advises me to just give her space when she gets angry. I love my wife and want her to be happy, but I am at a loss of what to do to make our relationship better. Please help.<br />
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It sounds like you and your wife are having problems connecting. The expression of anger in a marriage can be very hurtful. With each expression, there is damage to the emotional safety between the spouses, leading to distance, loneliness, resentment and anxiety. Your wife’s anger may be stemming from a desire to be closer to you emotionally. When she feels “rejected” by you, she responds with anger to protect herself from feelings of vulnerability. This type of dynamic is common in newly married couples who have yet to understand the emotional needs of each spouse. While men often seek closeness through physical intimacy, women tend to seek it through emotional intimacy. Your wife probably feels lonely and is seeking emotional closeness and safety with you. Her expressions of anger are an undeveloped way for her to express her needs and frustration. Only through the process of growing interpersonally will you both be able to express yourselves in a healthier way.</div>
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Having your wife angry with you all the time is difficult for you to comprehend and probably brings up feelings of helplessness and fear of the future of your marriage. When she is angry with you, your initial response is probably to try and fix it or defend yourself, but ultimately neither response invites more intimacy. Instead, see the conflictual moment as an opportunity to connect to your wife. So during those angry moments, do something completely “unnatural” — turn to her and truly listen to what she is expressing to you.</div>
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For example, you just got home from a long day at work, and you’re stressed and exhausted. Your wife shows you that she made your favorite meal for dinner. You respond by telling her that you just want to go upstairs and change and will eat after. She explodes with anger. You feel bewildered. What do you do now?</div>
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You are going to do something “unnatural” – walk up to her, take her hand, and look into her eyes and have the following conversation:.</div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Husband: “Honey, I love you and feel so loved that you made my favorite meal. I can see you are feeling frustrated, please share with me what is bothering you.”</em></div>
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Resolve to listen to whatever she tells you. Your challenge is to listen to her and truly hear what she is expressing. You don’t need to defend yourself, explain yourself, attack her, or walk away angry. You just need to maintain eye contact and find the feelings behind what she is saying.</div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Wife: “You don’t appreciate anything I do for you. I try and do something nice and you don’t even care!”</em></div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Husband: “Ok, I can see why you are frustrated. Tell me more about how you are feeling.”</em></div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Wife: “I’m angry that you don’t appreciate when I do something nice for you. It makes me not want to cook for you next time.”</em></div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Husband: “Ok, I can see that – you don’t feel appreciated, you have had a tiring day too and you just wanted to spend time with me when I got home. Is that it?”</em></div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Wife: “Yes, that’s it.”</em></div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Husband: “Honey, I understand now. I am sorry for not expressing to you how much I appreciate what you do for me. I have been looking forward to seeing you all day.” </em></div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Wife: “Aww..you did? That’s really sweet. I’m sorry for getting angry so quickly and I really just want to have a nice dinner with you and just catch up on our day.”</em></div>
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<em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Husband: “Thank you for telling me how you are feeling.I appreciate your openness.” How about I quickly go upstairs and wash up so that we can talk about our day over the lovely meal you’ve prepared for us?</em></div>
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A dialogue of repair will do wonders for your relationship! When your wife feels that you understand her feelings, she will automatically grow closer to you emotionally while reducing the tension. This is how emotional connection is built in a marital relationship. Even when you don’t want to “deal with a conflict,” you do it for the sake of your relationship.</div>
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This type of intimate connection can be challenging and this is why seeking a professional counselor for support is necessary. A counselor will help the couple feel safe to express their feelings and teach them how to truly listen to one another. If a spouse is constantly unhappy, they also may need a professional assessment for the possibility of depression. This may require a spouse to take medication for depression to alleviate the symptoms and help the spouse regain hope in the marriage. Repairing the hurt and anger in a marriage is possible if both spouses are willing to work on their communication skills and seek to build emotional intimacy.</div>
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How often in our lives do we use the phrase “it’s too late”? It’s too late to forgive, it’s too late to repent, it’s too late to make things better again, it’s too late to apologize, and the list continues. Is it really too late though? Perhaps not.</div>
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The only time that this infamous phrase is legitimate is after our last breath, after death has overtaken us. It’s not too late to apologize to someone. It’s not too late to ask Allah <em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">subhanahu wa ta`ala </em>(exalted is He) to forgive me for all the sins I have committed, for every act of<br />
<a name='more'></a> ungratefulness and for every disobedience to Him. It’s not too late to forgive others who might have wronged us. Maybe we are still breathing because we have been given a chance to realize that it’s not late for anything. The fact that we are still here is a sign strong enough to make us realize that we can still undo our mistakes, still forgive the unforgiven, still ask for forgiveness from our Lord, and still mend the hearts we broke.</div>
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Sometimes we are too arrogant to forgive someone. Irrespective of whether we receive an apology for their hurtful actions or not, do we really have the authority to withhold forgiveness? If we can be hard hearted enough to not forgive the people in our lives, why then do we expect our Lord to forgive us? Especially when we continue ignoring Him by not fulfilling our basic responsibilities as a Muslim. No doubt He is all All-Forgiving, the Ever Merciful—but if we fail to adopt even a small fraction of mercy in our daily lives then we have no right to expect the same from others.</div>
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In a <em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">hadith</em> (record of the words or actions of the Prophet ﷺ, peace be upon him) the Prophet ﷺ states: Allah the Almighty has said: “O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as its.”</div>
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<strong style="font-style: normal; font-weight: bold;">“[…] Pardon them and overlook [their misdeeds]. Indeed, Allah loves those the doers of good.” </strong>(Qur’an <a href="http://quran.com/5/13" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #154a7f; font-weight: 700; text-decoration: none;">5:13</a>)</div>
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<strong style="font-style: normal; font-weight: bold;">“[…] who restrain anger and who pardon the people—and Allah loves the doers of good.” </strong>(Qur’an <a href="http://quran.com/3/134" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #154a7f; font-weight: 700; text-decoration: none;">3:134</a>)</div>
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<strong style="font-style: normal; font-weight: bold;">Ja’far ibn Muhammad (may Allah have mercy on him) said, “For me to regret after having pardoned someone is more beloved to me than to feel regret after punishing someone.”</strong></div>
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Many a times we feel that since we have sinned so much there is no way that Allah (swt) is going to forgive us (it’s too late). But such thoughts are the work of the devil who entices us into believing that we are not worthy of forgiveness. This misconception moves us away from Allah (swt) and His worship as we tend to believe that no amount of worship can now undo what we did. Hence we give up on all our attempts at seeking forgiveness and we also give up on whatever worship we were previously involved in. Led astray by the devil at work, we tend to forget that Allah (swt) loves it when His creations comes to Him repenting and begging for forgiveness.</div>
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<strong style="font-style: normal; font-weight: bold;">“Say: “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the Mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.”</strong> (Qur’an <a href="http://quran.com/39/53" style="border-bottom-color: rgb(204, 204, 204); border-bottom-style: solid; border-bottom-width: 1px; color: #154a7f; font-weight: 700; text-decoration: none;">39:53</a>)</div>
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Allah’s mercy is vast and deep, beyond human comprehension. But it’s the human aspect of forgiveness that needs to be reformed. Blinded by our arrogance, we hold grudges and threaten people with statements like “I will never forgive you.” Many times we don’t even mean it and we forgive immediately after our anger subsides but sometimes we may make it a point to forgive only when asked for forgiveness. This is not a trait liked in the servants of Allah (swt). We should learn to forgive others with an open heart that our gesture of mercy will <em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">inshaAllah </em>(God willing) shower Allah’s (swt) Mercy on us.</div>
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Apologizing does not indicate that we are subservient to the one we apologize to. It does not stain our reputation or our worldly status, rather it’s a simple action that signifies our fear of our Lord Whose ultimate Mercy we seek while heeding that our humble attitude with His people will win us His Pleasure. But we need to remember that this belief in Allah’s Mercy does not mean that we keep on displeasing Him with the assurance that He will forgive us.</div>
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Brothers and sisters, let’s all apologize to our parents, friends, siblings, spouses and anyone else on whom we have inflicted pain with both our tongue and actions. Let’s all seek the forgiveness of each other in order to attain salvation and the Mercy of our Lord. Let’s not keep the forgiveness limited to texts and facebook statuses during Ramadan and in the last 10 days of Ramadan. Instead, let’s keep the spirit of forgiveness flowing all year around. <em style="font-style: italic; font-weight: normal;">Insha’Allah</em> we will be rewarded for it, if not in this world, then in the next one.</div>
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Remember, as long as we are alive, it’s never too late for ANYTHING. It’s never too late to make things right and it’s never too late to make several wrongs into one right.</div>
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May Allah bless us with the trait of forgiveness and shower His Mercy and Forgiveness on us all. Ameen.</div>
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<i>p/s: I humbly apologize for my wrongdoings. To my readers, Sorry if writings have hurt you in any way. To my friends, sorry for the lousy jokes or rude comments or rough behavior. To my family, sorry for everything and anything... Lets love one another!! Mwahhhh to all of you!</i></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;">source: <a href="http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/withthedivine/its-too-late/">http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/withthedivine/its-too-late/</a></span></div>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-13488796445156232392012-04-12T15:35:00.001+08:002012-04-12T15:36:23.461+08:00:: Kejamnya Manusia! Boikot Susu Awal Lembu! ::<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Astagfirullah is all I can say.. apa la nak jadi dengan manusia ni.. kejamnya.. tergamak pisahkan anak lembu dengan ibunya semata2 nak amik susu awal lembu yang penuh dengan colustrum. Pastu letak plak anak tu menangis2 sebelah ibunya supaya ibu dapat keluarkan lebih banyak susu. bangang! Pastu kalau binatang ganas sikit je dgn manusia, semua orang melenting.. bila kita kejam dengan binatang takde siapa bersuara.. Astagfirullah!</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Nukilan : Nor Kamariah Mohamad Alwi, IBCLC</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Tarikh: 21 Februari, 2010</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Keperluan pengambilan susu di dalam diet ibu mengandung mahupun ibu yang sedang menyusu sejak akhir-akhir ini telah dipropagandakan secara berleluasa oleh syarikat-syarikat pengeluar susu formula. Hasilnya, ibu-ibu semakin kurang keyakinan terhadap budaya pemakanan seimbang dan beranggapan dengan mengambil susu yang diformulakan dengan pelbagai khasiat yang dilabelkan pada tin masing-masing adalah yang terbaik hingga berasa bersalah atau kurang lengkap jika tidak berbuat demikian.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Mengikut sejarah peradaban manusia dan segala hidupan mamalia yang lainnya, keperluan setiap spesis terhadap susu ibu masing-masing memang wujud sejak azali lagi. Namun, kebergantungannya terhadap susu tidak pula berpanjangan sehingga dewasa. Cuba fikirkan, adakah orang utan, lembu, kambing, atau unta (serta sekalian spesis mamalia lain selain manusia) minum susu semasa mengandung untuk memastikan anak yang dikandung sihat atau semasa menyusukan anak masing-masing untuk memastikan anak yang disusukan mendapat cukup susu?</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><em style="font-style: italic;">Gambar Hiasan</em></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Hakikatnya, (saya petik dari</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milk" rel="external" style="color: grey; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="">Wikipedia</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">),</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Humans are an exception in the natural world for consuming milk past infancy,despite the fact that more than 75% of adult humans show some degree (some as little as 5%) of lactose intolerance, a characteristic that is more prevalent among individuals of African or Asian descent.[4] "</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Reference:</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">[4] Champe, Pamela (2008). "Introduction to Carbohydrates". Lippincott's Illustrated Reviews: Biochemistry, 4th ed.. Baltimore: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins. pp. 88. ISBN 0-7817-6960-0.</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Walaupun susu adalah salah satu sumber makanan yang kaya dengan pelbagai khasiat, namun ianya BUKANlah satu-satunya sumber makanan yang WAJIB diambil, tetapi jika boleh mengambilnya, atau tiada alahan terhadapnya, bolehlah diambil secara berpatutan, tidak berlebihan dan sebagai sebahagian daripada diet setiap hari. Apa sahaja yang diambil secara berlebihan boleh memudaratkan. Di dalam kehidupan, kita memerlukan keseimbangan.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Pertimbangkan juga isu etika dalam penghasilan susu secara industri ini telah menggalakkan perlakuan kekejaman ke atas makhluk lemah seperti lembu (dan mungkin juga haiwan mamalia lain): contohnya bagaimana anak lembu dipisahkan dari ibunya sebaik kelahiran, demi manusia boleh mengumpul kolustrum dari lembu (yang belum tentu bersesuaian untuk manusia), lalu si anak lembu pula dibiarkan menangis (kerana tidak dapat menyusu) ditepi ibunya agar sang ibu mendengar tangisan dan mendapat kesan "ejection reflex" dan lebih banyak susu dapat dikumpulkan. Tidak cukup dengan itu, anak lembu jantan dibunuh (bukan untuk dimakan) secara berleluasa kerana tidak berupaya menghasilkan susu dan tidak boleh melahirkan anak lembu yang baru. Bukankah manusia seringkali angkuh dan suka melakukan kekejaman?</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><img alt="Original Image" border="0" src="http://susuibu.com/uploads/img4b8108ee209a9.jpg" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px;" /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><em style="font-style: italic;">Gambar hiasan dari <a href="http://milkmyths.org.uk/intro.php" rel="external" style="color: grey; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="http://milkmyths.org.uk/intro.php">http://milkmyths.org.uk/intro.php</a> - <strong style="font-weight: bold;">Ibu lembu menanti bilakah saat perpisahan dengan anaknya, dan kelak sang ibu akan menjadi 'mesin pengeluar susu'</strong></em></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Saya sarankan, baca sejarah mengenai susu di dalam</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milk" rel="external" style="color: grey; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="">Wikipedia</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">untuk mendapat gambaran sewajarnya. Juga baca tentang kekejaman manusia terhadap spesis lembu di</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://milkmyths.org.uk/intro.php" rel="external" style="color: grey; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="">MilkMyths</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #333333; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Saya juga ingin menyeru ibu-ibu agar tidak terpengaruh dengan hebahan iklan yang berleluasa di luar sana kononnya perkembangan otak anak-anak akan jadi kurang baik jika ibu tidak mengambil susu berjenama XYZ semasa mengandung atau susu yang dihasilkan kurang berkhasiat jika tidak mengambil susu ABC dalam tempoh penyusuan. Baca tentang fakta tentang pemakanan seimbang dan politik serta latar belakang syarikat pengeluar susu yang hanya mementingkan keuntungan semata-mata!</span><br />
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<br />Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-37089932126216064692012-04-04T13:10:00.001+08:002012-04-04T13:10:38.015+08:00:: Actorlympics is ON Again!!! ::<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Yes you read right! Actorlympics is on again! Yahooooo!!! Woot woot!! yahooo!!! I can laugh my as* off!! yabedabedooo!!!!!<br />
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For those who can, its on the 14 & 15 May at PJOne. (<a href="http://actorlympics.blogspot.com/2012/04/shut-f-up-were-on-again.html">http://actorlympics.blogspot.com/2012/04/shut-f-up-were-on-again.html</a>)<br />
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Salam beautiful people of the universe!</div>
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A while ago, when I was in my darkest time of my life, when I just lost a relationship and a job on the same day, I almost lost myself. I withdrew from the world. I turned my phone off, I refused even get out of the bed. I hit rock bottom.</div>
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That was the time when I truly realized, when a relationship crumbles, both parties will feel the pain. Who's at fault is no longer important. It never is important, for when a couple argue, both parties are somehow guilty. Wallahualam.</div>
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Anyway, when I was at the bottom, feeling useless and worthless, a friend reached out to me. He tried calling, I rejected his call. He text, I ignored. He was persistent. After about 100 calls, I finally answered, just to tell him not to call me again. I told him, I just lost everything, my family and my career. He nonchalantly said.. "Oooo.. U lost your job.. U hilang keje je.. bukan hilang rezeki.. <b>Allah yang bagi rezeki, bukan company</b> you". That may be a simple statement but Allah opened my heart to accept it in so many levels. Alhamdulillah.. With that statement embedded in my heart, I pushed through and became better. With absolute help from Allah of course.</div>
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Now, after all these years, a lot has changed. The most significant change is having a child. Unfortunately my salary was the one thing that hasnt change. It was ok before when I was living for myself. Now, another being is depending on me for everything. I think its my responsibility to provide him with best start in live. Especially when I am not even sure about the state of our country 20 years from now. The least I can do is to sign him up for a good insurance and saving plan for his future. So thats 200++ out of my monthly salary.</div>
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Because of my love of the company, I didint want to leave for another job. I know deep down, this company is very good because of the people and the care they show towards the staff. Its unfortunate they cant give me any increment (or bonus). So I tried to adjust my lifestyle so that I can have that extra money for my baby. I bring food from home to work everyday. I tried selling my car but because my car's selling price wont cover my remaining loan with the bank, I couldnt sell it without paying the bank. So I maintained the car. I tried selling the house but at the very last minute, I backed off because of various reasons.</div>
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Well, anyway, I finally decided to fish around for a new job, hoping for a better pay of at least 30% increment. One that pays better and still care for the employee, like my existing company. I applied for a position in an establishment, which office is in KLCC. I got called up for an interview not long after that. I was ecstatic! I was very very happy. I anticipated the interview date. I prepared myself. Heck, I even bought new pants for the interview.</div>
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Long story short, I was called for a second interview. And then I was accepted. Out of 5 candidates, they chose me. I was over the moon! I was ready to tender anytime. I seriously like the job and the company. Oil and Gas company maa... The benefit is always over the top. But there's one more hurdle before I can tender. They wanted to do a 'salary negotiation'. Darn! So they called and did the negotiation. They offered me 600 increment. I was not happy. If this is a normal 8 to 5 job, I would be really happy. But this job requires me to sometimes work on weekends. Its a big thing for me because I now have a child. I need to consider finding a sitter during the weekends if I have to work. And would I be able to trust that sitter with my precious? Would I be able to really work if I worry too much about my kid? So I told the negotiator, I need to do my istikharah and will revert back the next day.</div>
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At that time my heart was really torn. I want the job so badly and at the same time, I want to make sure my son is safe.</div>
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I did my istikharah. Once, my heart srarts to lean towards staying with my existing company. But still, my desire to jump to the other company was still quite high. Considering its perks. My existing company covers rm1500 for maternity. This new company covers rm10,000. So you see, its not little perks I'm talking about. The difference is too huge. And of course there that yearly increment and bonus. Well, anyway, I did my istikharah again.. This time praying very very hard for a clearer mind, and firm decision.</div>
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After that second istikharah, I made up my mind. I felt calm and collected. I'm sure about my decision. I'm sure that this is the best decision for us at this point. So I <b>declined</b> the offer. I gently said that the increment offered is not enough for me to sacrifice my existing lifestyle. They respected my decision and accepted it. </div>
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A lot of you out there were shocked hearing my decision. Some of you said this is the opportunity of a lifetime. Some said the company is too good of a company to decline. Some said I should have just accepted the offer and work things out at home. Even if the offer is the same as my current pay, I should have just accepted it because of the company's stability and perks offered.</div>
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You see, what you dont know is this.. In my existing company, I am free to pump my milk at least 3 times a day. I'm free to do my solat fardhu. I am even free to do my solat sunat like solat dhuha, hajat & istikharah. They dont give us big fat bonus but they give us bantuan anak sekolah, rm1500 per child, every year. They dont even give increment, but they are very flexible, especially when it comes to family matter. I can go back anytime if any happens to my son, no matter how minor (Nauzubillah). </div>
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So maybe that is why Allah made up my mind to stay here. Its not hectic and therefore I have more time for my family. I work in desa pandan where the parking is free. Not in KLCC where I have to pay rm250 for its season parking (waiting list). Its not where garret popcorn and gong cha is available a few escalator rides away.. (jimat sikit..)</div>
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So I am very happy with my decision. Given a different situation, different time maybe I would have accepted it. I believe in Allah's plan. I am here just to play my part the best way I know how, with His guidance. </div>
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So once again the statement "Allah Yang Bagi Rezeki, Bukan Company" rings true. Alhamdulillah for this understanding Ya Allah!</div>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-6461016491480973622012-03-23T15:57:00.000+08:002012-03-23T15:59:19.653+08:00:: Wasiat Rasulullah s.a.w. Kepada Saidina Ali r.a. ::<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 20px;">Ali bin Abi Thalib r.a. berkata, </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">"Rasulullah saw berwasiat kepadaku dengan sabda Baginda":</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"></span></span><br />
<a name='more'></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 20px;">"Ya Ali!</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><br /></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Tidak ada kefakiran yang lebih hebat daripada kebodohan.<br />Tidak ada harta yang lebih berharga daripada aqal.<br />Tidak ada kesepian yang lebih sunyi daripada ujub (rasa kagum pada diri sendiri). </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Tidak ada kekuatan yang lebih hebat daripada musyawarah.<br />Tidak ada wara' yang lebih baik daripada menahan diri.<br />Tidak ada keindahan selain akhlak dan tidak ada ibadah yang melebihi tafakur."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali!<br />Segala sesuatu itu ada penyakitnya.<br />Penyakit berkata-kata adalah bohong.<br />Penyakit ilmu adalah lupa.<br />Penyakit ibadah adalah riak.<br />Penyakit akhlak adalah memuji diri sendiri.<br />Penyakit pemurah adalah menyebut-nyebut pemberian.<br />Penyakit bangsawan adalah merasa bangga.<br />Penyakit malu adalah lemah.<br />Penyakit mulia adalah menonjolkan diri.<br />Penyakit kaya adalah kikir dan berlebih-lebihan, dan<br />Penyakit agama adalah hawa nafsu."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali!<br />Perbanyakkanlah membaca Surah Yassin, kerana dalam membacanya itu terdapat sepuluh macam keberkatan.<br />Tidak ada orang yang membacanya waktu lapar atau puasa melainkan kenyang.<br />Haus kecuali hilang hausnya.<br />Tidak memiliki pakaian melainkan ia akan memperolehi pakaian.<br />Merasa takut kecuali datang rasa aman.<br />Di penjarakan melainkan ia akan keluar dari penjara.<br />Bujang melainkan ia akan berkahwin.<br />Sewaktu musafir matanya menjadi terang dalam perjalanan.<br />Tidak membacanya orang yang kehilangan sesuatu benda melainkan mendapatkannya kembali.<br />Tidak dibacakan ia ke atas orang yang akan hampir ajalnya melainkan diringankan baginya.<br />Barangsiapa yang membacanya di waktu subuh nescaya ia akan aman sehingga petang, dan barangsiapa yang membacanya di waktu petang nescaya ia akan berada di dalam keadaan aman sehinggalah waktu pagi."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Bacalah Surah Hammim Ad-Dukhaan pada malam Jumaat, nescaya Tuhan memberikan keampunan kepadamu."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Bacalah Surah Hasyar nescaya engkau berkumpul pada hari kiamat dalam keadaan aman dari segala sesuatu."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Bacalah Surah Tabaraka dan As-Sajadah nescaya berkat keduanya engkau diselamatkan Tuhan daripada bahaya hari kiamat."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Bacalah Qulhuwallahu Ahad dalam keadaan engkau berwudhuk, nescaya engkau akan di seru pada hari kiamat; Hai pemuji Tuhan! Bangkitlah, maka kemudian masuklah ke dalam syurga!"<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Bacalah Surah Al-Baqarah, kerana sesungguhnya dalam membacanya itu ada membawa keberkatan, dan tidak mahu membacanya membawa penyesalan.<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Janganlah engkau bersetubuh dengan isterimu pada malam bulan sabit baru muncul, dan jangan pula pada pertengahan bulan, kerana di khuatirkan anakmu akan cacat."<br /><br /><br /><i>Aku (Ali) bertanya: Kenapa demikian ya Rasulullah? Jawap Baginda: "Kerana Jin banyak mendatangi wanita-wanita pada malam tengah bulan dan pada malam Hilal (bulan sabit). Apakah engkau tidak perhatikan bahawa orang-orang gila itu boleh muncul penyakitnya kembali pada malam tengah bulan dan malam Hilal itu?</i><br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Jauhilah sengketa, kerana ia akan menghapuskan amalan-amalan engkau."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Segeralah bersedekah, kerana bala bencana itu tidak dapat melangkah mendahului sedekah."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Jauhilah kemarahan, kerana syaitan menguasai anak cucu Adam dalam keadaan ia marah."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Jauhilah olok-olok, kerana hal itu akan menghilangkan kehebatan anak cucu Adam dan kesungguhannya."<br /><br /><br />" Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Jauhilah riba, kerana padanya terdapat enam perkara, tiga di dunia dan tiga di akhirat. Adapun tiga di dunia;<br /><i>1. Ia akan cepat memusnahkan harta.<br />2. Ia akan melenyapkan kekayaan<br />3. Ia akan menghapuskan rezeki.</i></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><i><br />Adapun yang tiga di akhirat ;<br />1. Ia akan membawa buruk perhitungan (hisab).<br />2. Ia akan membawa kemurkaan Allah swt.<br />3. Kekal di dalam neraka."</i><br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Cintailah fakir miskin, nescaya Allah akan cinta pula kepadamu."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Janganlah engkau bentak fakir miskin, nescaya engkau akan di bentak pula oleh Malaikat pada hari kiamat."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Janganlah engkau abaikan sedekah, kerana ia akan menolak kejahatan dari dirimu."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Keluarkan infak hartamu dan berikan kelapangan kepada keluargamu, dan janganlah khuatir terhadap Tuhan yang memiliki Arasy bahawa Ia akan menyediakan kurnia-Nya terhadapmu."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Janganlah berdusta, kerana dusta itu menghitamkan muka. Bila seseorang sentiasa berdusta, dia akan dinamakan disisi Tuhan "si pendusta", dan bila dia benar maka akan dinamakan disisi Tuhan sebagai orang yang "benar" (siddiq). Sesungguhnya berdusta itu akan menjauhkan Iman.<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Kuasailah lisanmu dan biasakanlah bicara yang baik, kerana tidak ada yang lebih berbahaya bagi manusia pada hari kiamat melebihi ketajaman lisannya."<br /><br /><br />"Ya Ali! </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;">Jauhilah sifat dengki, kerana dengki itu memakan segala kebajikan sebagaimana api memakan kayu bakar".</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;"><i>(Hadis Riwayat At-Tirmidzi dan An-Nasa'i)</i></span></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 20px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;"><i>(Source: <a href="http://blogtokwan.blogspot.com/2012/02/wasiat-rasulullah-kepada-saidina-ali-ra.html?showComment=1332488580336#c47865782499418671">http://blogtokwan.blogspot.com/2012/02/wasiat-rasulullah-kepada-saidina-ali-ra.html?showComment=1332488580336#c47865782499418671</a>)</i></span></span></span>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-44578427305183534292012-03-22T17:21:00.000+08:002012-03-23T15:57:20.342+08:00:: He Melts My Heart ::<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">saya baru lepas jatuh katil..</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">saya ada gigi banyak..</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">saya kekenyangan!!</td></tr>
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<br />Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-40406309800246668472012-03-22T14:53:00.002+08:002012-03-23T15:57:48.453+08:00:: Kewajipan Lelaki Melindungi Wanita ::<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Last Thursday, I received a shocking news about my aunt's house in hulu langat. When my mom told me "Rumah acik banjir.. mak nak gi tengok dia ni.." I was like "Ok.. acik kat rumah ke?" My mom then said "Tak la.. dia kat sekolah, penempatan sementara mangsa banjir.. rumah dia tenggelam sampai bumbung". My jaw dropped. I asked my mom to wait for me. I wanted to go.<br />
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You see, Kg Sg Serai in Hulu Langat is a known flood prone area. There are floods almost every year. They have 'dalamkan sungai', clean all the drainage etc but still, flood happens every year.. Ok, I can almost hear you saying things like "Apsal dok situ lagi? Dah tau kawasan banjir, pindah la tempat lain.." Easy right? Not! My aunty is a tailor (a great one) and my uncle is working the land around their home. They are currently living on a 'tanah pusaka' which is owned by their siblings (my mom has given her part to my aunty since she is the one who is maintaining the land, and since she needs it more of course). She has no EPF or Pencen or a big fat bank account. She lives humbly with his husband, sewing mostly baju kurung for money, at home. She doesnt own big cars or goes all over the world to travel or buy expensive clothes.. Seriously, where would she have the money to buy a new house for her to live? She cant even apply for a bank loan, she doesnt have a payslip. Her husband cant either.</div>
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Anyway, on our way to Hulu Langat, the road was jammed. Traffic was bad. Our guess was that the road was still flooded. True enough, a few hundred metres from the school, police officers were busy diverting traffic. We told the police that we were going to visit out relative in the school and he let us in..</div>
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The condition in the school was chaotic. JKM social workers were busy doing their stuff, reporters snapping pictures here and there, bomba were helping out and a few of other volunteers were just trying to lessen everyone's burden. Mak and me peeked in the first dewan, acik was not there. we went up and peeked into another dewan and saw acik sitting on a chair in 'kain pelekat' and 'baju kurung kedah' (coutesy of JKM). She looked so tired. It turned out she was up the whole night. She couldnt sleep because of her aching back (she has slip disc u see). I looked around, every family had a toto for the them to sleep on and a few pillows each family. My aunty had none! Beside her, a family of four, had a toto for the to share and they had 6 pillows! SIX!!! The parents are both very 'warak' looking. The husband with 'celak' and 'janggut', the wife with her 'tudung labuh' till the knee, complete with 'purdah'. Astagfirullah!!! Apa la salahnya ko bagi sabijik bantal kat makcik aku! Astagfirullah! </div>
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I have nothing against people with purdah and celak. In fact, i love people who practice Islam as their way of life. But please la.. practice Islam whole-heartedly.. Ikhlas! As far as I know, Islam encourages us to be courteous, not self-centered. Islam teaches us to care for the elderly, to put people in need before us. Dont just wear celak and purdah and call yourself a pious muslim.. Wallahualam. </div>
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Anyway, later that day, Dato Sri Shahrizat came. She saw my mom and immediately said hi to her. Its amazing how she can remember my mother's name in the first place. At least I know my mother made an impact as the penolong ketua pengarah JKM, so much so the big boss recognize her from the get go. </div>
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Then, we decided to go and look at acik's house. its still flooded but we decided to just go in. We had to park the car by the road side and waddle ourselves in towards the house. The water was still as high as my thigh. God knows whats in the water. At some point my mom thought she saw buaya! But alhamdulillah nothing happened. We got into the house and the condition was seriously not as I expected. The mud was so thick, you had to use a shovel to remove it. The fridge was upside down, everything was damaged. We were trying hard to salvage whatever we can but sadly nothing can be salvaged. NOTHING! The sad thing is, Acik kept on saying "Sayangnya kain2 orang ni.." Then she continued cleaning and said "Alahai kain orang ni.. dia nak kawin minggu depan". I can only imagine her agony. How do you explain to people that their baju nikah is damaged and you cant replace it because you have no money? I can only imagine. I'm sure acik is heart-broken.</div>
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All her mesin jahit were damaged and so does her career as a tailor. If she were to replace the mesin, she would need at least RM2000++. I have no money to offer her but I did offer her my home. I told her she can stay in my house in bangi as long as she wants. At least there, there's a warm bed for her to sleep on, dry sofa, working kitchen and bathroom. She refused of course. She wants to stay in her own house and clean her stuff. I persisted but she kept on saying no so I let it go.</div>
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Well, later that night, we had a family meeting. Abah told us all to help with what we can. Again i told abah i have no money to offer but I can offer my energy and my home for acik and pakcik. Abah will be buying her fridge and tv, mak will but her mesih jahit. It wont make acik's pain disappear but I'm sure it can more or less lessen her burden. </div>
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The thing I remember from this incident, when mak was with acik, She said, "Sah, kalau udo ni jutawan, udo belikan kau rumah kat tompek lain.. sedih udo tengok kau macam ni.." Acik's tears immediately rolled down her cheek. At that moment, I truly understand the meaning of the word 'sisterhood'.</div>Wife, Mother and Daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00469107183685363835noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7972757036059585592.post-67980892534331537932012-03-13T10:34:00.003+08:002012-03-13T10:42:06.703+08:00:: Why People Leave Each Other? ::<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #414b52; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, Garuda, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me: “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question was a personal one, but it seemed clear to me why the question was chosen for me.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Ever since I was a child, this temperament was clear. While other children in preschool could easily recover once their parents left, I could not. My tears, once set in motion, did not stop easily. As I grew up, I learned to become attached to everything around me. From the time I was in first grade, I needed a best friend. As I got older, any fall-out with a friend shattered me. I couldn’t let go of anything.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">People, places, events, photographs, moments, even outcomes became objects of strong attachment. If things didn’t work out the way I wanted or imagined they should, I was devastated. And disappointment for me wasn’t an ordinary emotion. It was catastrophic. Once let down, I never fully recovered. I could never forget, and the break never mended. Like a glass vase that you place on the edge of a table, once broken, the pieces never quite fit again.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But the problem wasn’t with the vase. Or even that the vases kept breaking. The problem was that I kept putting them on the edge of tables. Through my attachments, I was dependent on my relationships to fulfill my needs. I allowed those relationships to define my happiness or my sadness, my fulfillment or my emptiness, my security, and even my self-worth. And so, like the vase placed where it will inevitably fall, through those dependencies I set myself up for disappointment. I set myself up to be broken. And that’s exactly what I found: one disappointment, one break after another.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But the people who broke me were not to blame any more than gravity can be blamed for breaking the vase. We can’t blame the laws of physics when a twig snaps because we leaned on it for support. The twig was never created to carry us.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Our weight was only meant to be carried by God. We are told in the Quran: “…whoever rejects evil and believes in God hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And God hears and knows all things.” (Qur’an 2: 256)</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There is a crucial lesson in this verse: that there is only one handhold that never breaks. There is only one place where we can lay our dependencies. There is only one relationship that should define our self-worth and only one source from which to seek our ultimate happiness, fulfillment, and security. That place is God.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But this world is all about seeking those things everywhere else. Some of us seek it in our careers, some seek it in wealth, some in status. Some, like me, seek it in our relationships. In her book, Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert describes her own quest for happiness. She describes moving in and out of relationships, and even travelling the globe in search of this fulfillment. She seeks that fulfillment—unsuccessfully—in her relationships, in meditation, even in food.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And that’s exactly where I spent much of my own life: seeking a way to fill my inner void. So it was no wonder that the little girl in my dream asked me this question. It was a question about loss, about disappointment. It was a question about being let down. A question about seeking something and coming back empty handed. It was about what happens when you try to dig in concrete with your bare hands: not only do you come back with nothing—you break your fingers in the process. And I learned this not by reading it, not by hearing it from a wise sage. I learned it by trying it again, and again, and again.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And so, the little girl’s question was essentially my own question…being asked to myself.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Ultimately, the question was about the nature of the dunya as a place of fleeting moments and temporary attachments. As a place where people are with you today, and leave or die tomorrow. But this reality hurts our very being because it goes against our nature. We, as humans, are made to seek, love, and strive for what is perfect and what is permanent. We are made to seek what’s eternal. We seek this because we were not made for this life. Our first and true home was Paradise: a land that is both perfect and eternal. So the yearning for that type of life is a part of our being. The problem is that we try to find that here. And so we create ageless creams and cosmetic surgery in a desperate attempt to hold on—in an attempt to mold this world into what it is not, and will never be.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And that’s why if we live in dunya with our hearts, it breaks us. That’s why this dunya hurts. It is because the definition of dunya, as something temporary and imperfect, goes against everything we are made to yearn for. Allah put a yearning in us that can only be fulfilled by what is eternal and perfect. By trying to find fulfilment in what is fleeting, we are running after a hologram…a mirage. We are digging into concrete with our bare hands. Seeking to turn what is by its very nature temporary into something eternal is like trying to extract from fire, water. You just get burned. Only when we stop putting our hopes in dunya, only when we stop trying to make the dunya into what it is not—and was never meant to be (jannah) will this life finally stop breaking our hearts.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We must also realize that nothing happens without a purpose. Nothing. Not even broken hearts. Not even pain. That broken heart and that pain are lessons and signs for us. They are warnings that something is wrong. They are warnings that we need to make a change. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. That we need to detach. Pain is a form of forced detachment. Like the loved one who hurts you again and again and again, the more dunya hurts us, the more we inevitably detach from it. The more we inevitably stop loving it.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And pain is a pointer to our attachments. That which makes us cry, that which causes us most pain is where our false attachments lie. And it is those things which we are attached to as we should only be attached to Allah which become barriers on our path to God. But the pain itself is what makes the false attachment evident. The pain creates a condition in our life that we seek to change, and if there is anything about our condition that we don’t like, there is a divine formula to change it. God says: “Verily never will God change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves.” (Qur’an, 13:11)</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak, I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that love of dunya meant being attached to material things. And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I thought that the love of dunya just did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all a part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in life was due to one thing, and one thing only: love of dunya.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As soon as I began to have that realization, a veil was lifted from my eyes. I started to see what my problem was. I was expecting this life to be what it is not, and was never meant to be: perfect. And being the idealist that I am, I was struggling with every cell in my body to make it so. It had to be perfect. And I would not stop until it was. I gave my blood, sweat, and tears to this endeavor: making the dunya into jannah. This meant expecting people around me to be perfect. Expecting my relationships to be perfect. Expecting so much from those around me and from this life. Expectations. Expectations. Expectations. And if there is one recipe for unhappiness it is that: expectations. But herein lay my fatal mistake. My mistake was not in having expectations; as humans, we should never lose hope. The problem was in *where* I was placing those expectations and that hope. At the end of the day, my hope and expectations were not being placed in God. My hope and expectations were in people, relationships, means. Ultimately, my hope was in this dunya rather than Allah.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And so I came to realize a very deep Truth. An ayah began to cross my mind. It was an ayah I had heard before, but for the first time I realized that it was actually describing me: “Those who rest not their hope on their meeting with Us, but are pleased and satisfied with the life of the present, and those who heed not Our Signs.” (Qur’an, 10:7)</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">By thinking that I can have everything here, my hope was not in my meeting with God. My hope was in dunya. But what does it mean to place your hope in dunya? How can this be avoided? It means when you have friends, don’t expect your friends to fill your emptiness. When you get married, don’t expect your spouse to fulfill your every need. When you’re an activist, don’t put your hope in the results. When you’re in trouble don’t depend on yourself. Don’t depend on people. Depend on God.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Seek the help of people—but realize that it is not the people (or even your own self) that can save you. Only Allah can do these things. The people are only tools, a means used by God. But they are not the source of help, aid, or salvation of any kind. Only God is. The people cannot even create the wing of a fly (22:73). And so, even while you interact with people externally, turn your heart towards God. Face Him alone, as Prophet Ibrahim (as) said so beautifully: “For me, I have set my face, firmly and truly, towards Him Who created the heavens and the earth, and never shall I give partners to Allah.” (Qur’an, 6:79)<br />But how does Prophet Ibrahim (as) describe his journey to that point? He studies the moon, the sun and the stars and realizes that they are not perfect. They set. They let us down.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So Prophet Ibrahim (as) was thereby led to face Allah alone. Like him, we need to put our full hope, trust, and dependency on God. And God alone. And if we do that, we will learn what it means to finally find peace and stability of heart. Only then will the roller coaster that once defined our lives finally come to an end. That is because if our inner state is dependent on something that is by definition inconstant, that inner state will also be inconstant. If our inner state is dependent on something changing and temporary, that inner state will be in a constant state of instability, agitation, and unrest. This means that one moment we’re happy, but as soon as that which our happiness depended upon changes, our happiness also changes. And we become sad. We remain always swinging from one extreme to another and not realizing why.<br />We experience this emotional roller coaster because we can never find stability and lasting peace until our attachment and dependency is on what is stable and lasting. How can we hope to find constancy if what we hold on to is inconstant and perishing? In the statement of Abu Bakr is a deep illustration of this truth. After the Prophet Muhammad ? died, the people went into shock and could not handle the news. But although no one loved the Prophet like Abu Bakr, Abu Bakr understood well the only place where one’s dependency should lie. He said: “If you worshipped Muhammad, know that Muhammad is dead. But if you worshipped Allah, know that Allah never dies.”</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">To attain that state, don’t let your source of fulfillment be anything other than your relationship with God. Don’t let your definition of success, failure, or self-worth be anything other than your position with Him (Qur’an, 49:13). And if you do this, you become unbreakable, because your handhold is unbreakable. You become unconquerable, because your supporter can never be conquered. And you will never become empty, because your source of fulfillment is unending and never diminishes.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Looking back at the dream I had when I was 17, I wonder if that little girl was me. I wonder this because the answer I gave her was a lesson I would need to spend the next painful years of my life learning. My answer to her question of why people have to leave each other was: <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: transparent; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: initial; outline-width: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">“because this life isn’t perfect; for if it was, what would the next be called?”</strong></span></div>
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